No limits

Fincar cheapest place to order To my mind, one of the most damaging things a parent or teacher can do is to place limits on what they think their children can achieve.

buy cheap antabuse People who achieve highly in any sphere of life – academic, artistic, sporting, business, community service and so forth – are usually those who know they can always do better. They don’t recognize a ceiling on what they can do.

http://sheheet.com/roman-soldiers/ Yet so many of us do place limits on the children we love and care for. There are many ways that we do this, often casually and nearly always well-intentioned. Consider some of the phrases that we may hear ourselves and others using with our children, such as:

  • “Well anyway, you did your best”
  • “Don’t worry, mathematics just isn’t your thing”
  • “I was never any good at art either”
  • “You run very fast for a girl”
  • “It’s very hard for a black/working class/Hispanic kid to get into an Ivy League university.

Comments such as these are intended to bring comfort to a child who may be anxious that they have not done very well at something or should be prepared for failure. But the inevitable outcome is that the child comes to believe that they may never do very well. The child comes to accept the limits unintentionally, indeed lovingly, imposed upon them by their elders.

buy myambutol 400mg On the other hand, few of us would accept the “Tiger Mother” approach to parenting and teaching.  We want our children to be successful but are aware that if we put unrelenting pressure on them to succeed we will rob them of their childhood.

Probably the most effective approach is to recognize the open-ended nature of human potential and encourage our children to exceed the limits that others may unthinkingly impose upon them.

Thank you.

Next time: The role of memory in your child’s learning.

 

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